Into Action: Part 3: Step 8 & 9

Into Action: Part 3: Step 8 & 9 (Pages 76 – 84)

  1. Once Step 7 is completed, when does our book say we need more action?
  2. What do we find without action?
  3. Where do our beginning list of names come from, in order to write our 8th Step list?
  4. After we have subjected ourselves to a drastic self-appraisal, when do we go out to our fellows and repair the damage done in the past?
  5. Define the word, “debris”.  Name the two (2) reasons this debris has accumulated.
  6. What do we do, if we haven’t the will to do this?  Who do we ask?
  7. What did we agree to “at the beginning”?
  8. Define the word, “victory”.
  9. What does “victory over alcohol” mean to you?
  10. Do you still have some misgivings about working Step 9?
    1. If so, what are they?
  11. Define the word, “diffident”.
  12. If we feel diffident about approaching some of these people on a spiritual basis, why should we be reassured?  What might we prejudice them about?
  13. What are we trying to do with our lives?
    1. What does this answer mean to you?
    2. What does having an “ordered life” mean to you?
    3. Who sets the order?
  14. What is our “real purpose”?
  15. Define the virtue of “justice”?
  16. What should we not announce to the person who still smarts from our injustice to him?
  17. Why should we not announce that?  What might we kill?
  18. What will our man be impressed with?
  19. Should we use this as an excuse from shying away from the subject of God?
  20. When should we be willing to announce our convictions with tact and common sense?
  21. How should we approach the man who we hated or that has done us more harm than we have done him?
  22. What does the phrase “taking the bit in our teeth” mean?
  23. Why should we go to enemies and make amends?
  24. How do we go to them?
  25. Under what conditions can we criticize them?
  26. What do we simple tell them?
  27. Why would we sweep off our side of the street?
  28. Are his faults discussed?
  29. What happens if our manner is calm, frank and open?
  30. How often does the unexpected happen?
  31. What happens sometimes?
  32. What do our former enemies occasionally do?
  33. Does it matter if we get thrown “out of his office”?  Why?
  34. Do you owe money?
  35. Is it okay to open up about our drinking?
  36. Should we be afraid of disclosing our drinking on the theory that it may cause financial harm?
  37. What kind of deal do we arrange?
  38. What kind of fear must we lose?
  39. To what length do we need to go?
  40. What happens if I stay afraid to face my creditors?
  41. Perhaps we have committed a criminal offense, or padded the expense account or owe back alimony, are these common problems?
  42. How do we make financial amends for them?  Is there only one way?
  43. In the general guidelines that we finding guiding, what is the first thing we remind ourselves of?
  44. What do we ask God for?  At what cost to ourselves?
  45. However, are we to be the hasty and foolish martyr?
  46. In the next example, what do you feel the point of this story is?
  47. If we are going to implicate other people, what must we secure first?
  48. What is the four step process when other people are involved?
  49. The next story is an example of this four step process in play.  Do you think this man was sincere?  What was his reasoning for risking all that he might lose when making amends?
  50. Where did he have to place the outcome of this amend?
  51. What would happen if he didn’t?
  52. Does drinking complicate sex problems in your home?
  53. What happens to spouses of alcoholics?
  54. How does the alcoholic respond?
  55. On occasion, the alcoholic may step out or their marriage vows, how do they generally feel about that?
  56. If we are sure that our spouse does not know, should we tell them?
  57. How detailed should we get?
  58. What do we feel we ought to say to the spouse?
  59. What should we do?
  60. Are there ever justifiable exceptions?  Are the authors laying down a hard and fast rule?
  61. Is our design for living a one way street?
  62. Are there ever cases where the utmost frankness is demanded?
  63. Who can appraise this situation?
  64. What might both decide?
  65. What should each one pray for?
  66. What is the most terrible emotion?
  67. What if there is no such complication?
  68. What do some alcoholics say?
  69. What will be gone if he/she does not keep sober?
  70. What might be the outcome for us, if our parents and spouses were not full of patient understanding?
  71. What is the alcoholic like?
  72. Have you “broken hearts”?  Who?  How did you do it?
  73. Are any of your sweet relationships dead?  Which ones?  How did they die?
  74. Are any of your affections been uprooted?  Who?  how?
  75. What has kept your home in turmoil?
  76. What do we think the alcoholic is, when they say that “sobriety is enough”?
  77. What long period is ahead?
  78. Can we sit back and relax or must we take the lead?
  79. What will not fill the bill?
  80. What must we do with the family?
  81. What do we ask our Creator every morning?
  82. Describe what you think the authors meant by the phrase, “The spiritual life is not a theory.”
  83. How do we live “spiritually”?
  84. Should we urge our family to live on a spiritual basis?
  85. Will they change in time?
  86. What will convince them, more then our words?
    1. Do you believe this?
    2. Why do you think it is true?
  87. What has made our families skeptical?
  88. Are there some wrongs that we may never be able to fully right?
  89. Under what circumstances should we not worry about them?
  90. For those who cannot be seen, what do we do?
  91. How should we act?
  92. Why do we not crawl before anyone?
  93. What happens if we are painstaking about this phase of our development?
  94. What are we going to know?
  95. What will we not regret?
  96. What will we comprehend?
  97. What will we see?
  98. What will disappear?
  99. What will we lose?
  100. What will slip away?
  101. What will change?
  102. What will leave us?
  103. What will we intuitively know how to handle?
  104. What will we realize?
  105. Are these extravagant promises?
  106. When are they being fulfilled?
  107. Under what conditions will they always materialize?
  108. What is the last thought stated that brings us to Step 10?

**Big Book Study: Chapter 6: Into Action: Step 10

%d bloggers like this: